Are you happy?
I hope you are. After all, what is a life devoid of happiness? But sadly, many answer, “No” to this critical question.
In western society we’re taught happiness comes from things or experiences or people. That’s flawed because external things, people, and experiences don’t make us happy. The truth is we allow ourselves to feel happy when our happiness rules are met.
Think about it. Two people can go through the same event and each come away with a different meaning. For example; one business owner might feel thrilled when the opportunity to land a big contract comes because it means more revenue or the chance to expand the company. Another business owner might have the same opportunity but feel annoyed that they need to fill out the bid or feel fear about the tax bracket the extra revenue will put them in.
It’s the same situation. So why does each react differently?
Their happiness rules—let’s call them their personal laws of happiness. The first business owner has laws of happiness that mean increased money is something to feel happy about. And the second business owner has laws of happiness that make extra money something to worry about.
What about a simpler scenario?
Think about a rollercoaster. You reach the top of the first hill. The car drops. Your stomach leaps into your chest. The wind buffets your face. You scream as the car rockets through the first turn…
Is your scream one of joy or fear?
Your feelings about a rollercoaster ride are based on your personal laws of happiness and are unique. I feel differently about rollercoasters than you do. The next person who reads this will feel differently than both of us. There’s no way around it.
Everyone has different rules about happiness.
But if you’re unhappy there’s good news. Heck, even if you’re happy there’s good news.
Happiness is within you! It’s already there!
You choose whether you feel happy or not. You get to decide how you feel. No one can take that from you.
I know someone’s gonna say, “But my life sucks! What do I have to feel happy about?”
Start with the simple things. Are you breathing? That’s something to feel happy about. If you’re reading this, you can see. If you’re listening to this, you can hear. You’re alive! You can think. You can make choices. You can change your happiness rules.
No matter what condition your life is in today, you have the power to change it! That’s something to feel happy about.
The best part is, once you choose to feel happiness in the simple things, it blooms and you’ll discover more and more happiness in your life!
Your life is a story, a grand adventure full of hope and wonder and love and happiness. Get out there and live it!
You are The Master of Your Destiny!
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