You Should Never Argue for Your Weakness
Has someone ever told you about a weakness they have, something they can’t do, or problems they’re having, and then they go on to explain all the reasons they either can’t change these things or have no control over them?
Have you ever done this yourself?
It’s something I call arguing for your weakness. It’s an unhealthy habit and quickly sabotages your success.
When a person starts telling others why they can’t do something, change something, or why they have no control over a situation, they’re coming from a place of victimhood. They’re focusing on and reinforcing the negative aspects of situations and life. They’re also forgetting that no matter what, they always have control of the meaning they give an event. And worse, they’re nearly guaranteeing that things will never change for them—at least in that area of their life.
Understand that we all have something about ourselves that we’d like to change or something about our lives that we’d like to change. It might be something big, something that would dramatically improve our lives—if we just made the shift. It might be a little thing that no one but us would really notice. But it’s there. And we know it.
We can approach these a few ways. When we look at these things, we can choose to see the parts that upset us. Or we can listen to the lessons, the things we can learn from the situation. We can also understand the inherent good and seek understanding of that.
What Can You Do?
The next time you discover yourself telling someone—or yourself—all the reasons you can’t do something, why something you dislike is “Just the way it is”, or why you have no control over any situation… STOP IT!
You Always Have Control Over the Meaning You Give Events.
You Always Have a Choice How You Respond.
It’s Your Life.
You Choose Your Path.
Get out there and Master Your Destiny!
You Are The Master of Your Destiny!