The first method of dealing with failure is to Give Up when you fail. Yeah, that’s right, QUIT!
This is by far the easiest path. Quitters never have to worry about learning. The can forget growing. When you quit you’re experiencing the only true form of failure. Quitting is also a great path if you’re stuck in a victim mentality.
Because the victim mentality allows you to place blame for the condition of your life on other things, on other people, on anything but you.
Here’s the rub.
If you’re going to blame other people or things for your failures then how can you ever take credit for your successes? At some point you must accept the fact that you choose what to think and do.
As far as I’m aware, science hasn’t figured out how to place someone else’s brain in your head. So those thoughts and actions came from you!
Guess where that puts the responsibility for your life?
Right on your shoulders!
With that understanding, is quitting really the best option? In the end you have to answer to yourself.
So perhaps this question is in order, “Am I a quitter or a fighter?”
The second method of approaching failure is to Keep Trying The Same Thing Over and Over and Over…without learning from your mistakes…
Many people seem stuck in this mode. It’s like grabbing an electric fence time and again while thinking, “It can’t shock me again because it shocked me last time…”
Guess what? Yes It Can!
And until you start changing your approach it will! The only reason this approach isn’t as bad as quitting is because you might figure out someday that you must do something different if you want different results!
So if you’re stuck in this approach…there’s hope.
Actually, there’s hope even if you’re stuck in the quitting cycle because you are human. That means you have the power of choice. You are 100% capable of change!
The third method to handle failure is to Keep Trying, Learn From Each Failure, Adjust Your Approach and Try Again! Repeat this process until you succeed. (And even then keep improving!)
This is the natural growth and learning process. It’s what children do! It’s what people who haven’t bought into small thinking do! It’s what people who learn their way out of small thinking do!
Think about it. When you were learning to walk, did you give up the first time you fell?
Did you sit on the ground, throw up your hands and say, “I guess I’m just not a walker.”
Of course not!
Because you really wanted to walk and you didn’t know quitting was an option!
So why would you give up on things today just because they get a little hard?
Right! There’s no good reason! So get back up, get out there, figure out what you’re doing wrong, and Change Your Approach!
There’s a word for this process…Success!
You Are The Master of Your Destiny!
P.S. for methods and processes to create lasting change and success in your life, check out my books.
Copyright © 2012 Roland Byrd — All Rights Reserved
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